In discussing the psychological submodality associated with doing roleplays as part of one’s sexual experience, it’s important to divide them into two categories: dominance and submission oriented roleplays, and everything else.
The first category of course primarily arouses based on the psychological sexual play of dominance and submission. These are usually roleplays with clear hierarchies in the characters, for instance boss and secretary, teacher and student. In some cases, roleplays can serve as an introduction to bdsm play. It is psychologically easier because there is a distance there in the sense of you two playing different characters than yourself, as opposed to her being your slave or Mistress. This also allows you to feel out each other’s playing style in a range of different types of scenarios, and find what sorts of dominance play is most exciting, natural and comfortable for the two of you. Still, in many cases the roles themselves are arousing, and roleplays will remain a longstanding feature of your sexual experience with the woman, especially if she has had, e.g., a teacher she had the hots for in her past.
There is another class of roleplays that can naturally lead to a scenario without a clear status element, e.g., a masseuse, personal trainer or a gynecologist. A common theme is two people are doing something ostensibly asexual, but by virtue of its circumstance and the consciously subdued but subconsciously fierce attraction between the two participants, sex happens. If I were to try to make a taxonomy of sexual rapport, with bdsm and tantric practice two significant categories, the third would be generally novelty experiences, in regards to the circumstances and sensations associated with sex. So I’d classify sex in unusual locations in this category as well. Overall it is an interesting, rather than a particularly deep and intimate experience. It is a fun thing to do in the general spirit of play and lightheartedness and openness to experience in sex.
Of course, it shouldn’t even need to be said, but often a significant erotic feature of roleplays is the costumes, just plain visually speaking they are arousing. But of course, I will go into this in detail in a future article.