In regards to femdom play, there are a number of different themes, facilitating different types of play and dirty talk, that one can engage in.
One thing that can make some women intimidated by the thought of trying femdom is the stereotype image of a shouty bitchy leathered up dominatrix insulting and whipping a cowering crying man. Now, if that’s what you are into, there are women who would indulge, but certainly less than those who would enjoy milder variants.
For some women, practicing femdom can be a good exercise to cultivate sexual assertiveness and confidence. If a woman is struggling with these issues it may be therapeutic to encourage her to try it.
Otherwise, in general there is some amount of switches who enjoy sometimes playing some of these themes out of genuine erotic excitement or just the fun of variety. Pure dommes are rare but exist.
Worshipping thte Goddess – A fair amount of women can enjoy this as a relaxing and indulging experience. The man is her servant, to bring her pleasure with licking and kissing various body parts (feet, hands, ass, asshole, etc.), as well as licking her pussy at her will. A fun thing to do is to train for the slave to be able to get hard on the Mistresses command.
Bulldog on a leash – This can be considered in here Sexual Rapport with Switches but I will remark on it here as well. Sometimes the man and woman still prefer penetration after a scene and have it be with the man actively and roughly fucking her. A nice way to incorporate femdom well with this, is for the man to be having to endure pain for some time and also does a lot of teasing and denial, before she “releases” him in some way towards freedom to become a raw animal.
Toy for her Amusement – The woman hurts the man because it’s amusing to her, to cause him pain and see his reactions and hear his cries and laugh at them. She’s a sadistic queen who has the power to do as she like with this man and she finds it entertaining to hurt him in many ways.
Sexy stud boy toy – This one is associated with many roleplalys. The man is exciting to the woman but a bit naive, and she uses a position of authority to enjoy the man physically , commanding him to pleasure her and fuck her as she likes;
Punish the Pervert – He’s a naughty man, either in general or because he did something specifically recently that the Mistress can punish him for. Deserving of punishment for his perversions, this woman willing to carry them out, and beat him, hurt him, and otherwise torment him as he has earned for his naughtiness.
Finally, just to mention it, stronger and more intensively bdsm roles, the cruel bitch, the vicious humiliator, the nasty princess, etc. as more intense roles are possibilities one may see or be aware of as ways people play.
In general in articles here I will focus more on the lighter forms of play. In the spirit of cultivating a varied comprehensive experience based on connecting by a mentally stimulating mix of roles, short scenes incorporating some of the above can be something fun and exciting to add to an already varied sexual repertoire.
Note that I won’t write much, if anything, about heavier and more prolonged scenes and styles of femdom play as I personally can no longer get into subspace with a regular partner, only in a controlled scenario with a professional, due to some past experience, so I only go and intend to go there under those circumstances, which is outside the scope of the blog.