This is the third and final installment of the Cunnilingus article series. Cunnilingus – Part 1 was about the overall approach, philosophy, and its role in one’s sexual exploration and enjoyment, as well as the prelude. .Cunnilingus – Part 2 is about the techniques that one can use in the beginning and middle of the session. Here we will write about moves that take her to a higher level of stimulatiton and pleasure and help in achieving orgasm for her.
Note, perhaps about 30% of women are actutally too sensitive to the most of what is described here. In this case you can go back and forth between the moves in Cunnilingus – Part 2 and a slower and lighter version of the techniques here.
As she is getting more excited, you can begin to start flicking the tip of the clit, which brings her to the highest level of stimulation. You can go both up and down and side to side, in general most women like both. Perhaps side to side is a bit more intense on average. Flicking is basically keeping your tongue stiff and quickly moving it back and forth bouncing through the clit. To intensify the stimulation further create a suction with your lips. It can be exciting to skip a beat, pause for the time of one or two “flicks” to add a small bit of space for the pleasure to build more as well.
With some women, they will also need or want finger stmulation in the hole, The most reliable combination in this case is fingering the G-spot (see Fingering ) and with the other hand pressing down her pubic bone with your palm, and using your fingers to keep the lips open.
To me, unless she requests it, continuing without the finger feels ultimately more intimate and enjoyable, and anyway why wear out the hole unnecessarily?
With suction and intensive flicking, either up and down, left to right, or switching between the two, if you’ve aroused her well beforehand, a good majority will be sent to orgasm (not all, see Proof that Women are Capitalists and Men are Communists ). As she gets close, and also during her orgasm, neither diminish nor raise the stimulation. There may be an urge to go faster, don’t.. Continue the stimulation through the end of her orgasm.
See Women’s Refractory Period and Multiple Orgasms . Some women will need a break after cumming, others can have multiple ones, sometimes soon after, sometimes later. Some of them will squirm as it gets progressively more intense and so make sure your arms are in a position to hold her hips down.
Enjoy, and enjoy often.