When working with a new woman in uncovering her sexuality, a common theme, perhaps over-represented among the women amenable to my services, is the releasing of psychological inhibitions and the cultivation of sexual confidence.
This manifests in a number of ways, including in the, typically far more frequent, situations wherein she is the passive partner in the sexual activity. A significant trigger of arousal as well as a central theme in many sexual practices, is the man’s intense and uncontrollable desire to ravish hthe sexy woman. One can clearly see how the realization of this can be affected by the woman believing, or not, ini her sexiness. Many are concerned if they in general, or some part of them, looks sexy in various positions. A lack of sexual confidence can inhibit their ability to express their enjoyment with their sounds, facial expressions, and body movements. It can even significantly affect her ability to let go enough to orgasm.
This can equally afflict women of varying actual appearance. It can be seen from a rather meek disposition in sex and little body movement other than uncontrollable spasms.
It can be caused by a number of psychological factors and if you’re of the disposition it may not hurt to do a bit of psychoanalysis on her on this if she’s willing, just to get her to externalize it mentally and it’ll be easier to break free.
During sex, regular dirty talk talking about how various parts of her, various movements and sounds, etc. turn you on (of course hopefully there are some things that do, otherwise, what are you doing?) helps considerably.
An excitinng maledom theme is to command her to perform for you in some way. She can touch herself and talk dirty, she can do a naughty stripper dance, she can shake some body part in your face, etc. This one is great in “forcing” her to with proper energy display her sexiness.
See Female Dominance – Types of Rapport for some femdom ideas, some light play can be good to teach her to be assertive for her pleasure and to be active and express herself confidently in a sexual context.
When all else fails, Sex and Drugs
So in summary, if you are dealing with a woman who has sexual confidence issues hurting expressiveness and letting go, then try out one or some of these strategies above.