Switches are BDSM players that both dominate and submit and/or both top and bottom (put simply, the distinction is psychological and physical). There are some subtle points when you are dealing with switches, in terms of navigating the types of rapport you may have, and how to work with it best to have the mutually hottest experience.
Most subs and dommes fairly strongly identify serving or commanding as their identity in engaging in sexual activity. Switches come in three flavors: light switches generally don’t get into deep topspace and subspace but just like throwing in some kink in their sex now and then, often they only do the physical b-sm play, or light roleplays (with the exception of the rape fantasy, which is very common). Second, there are many women who will bottom and sub, and top but not domme, many of these are subs who like to pleasure their dom by hitting him or fucking him in the ass with a strapon when he wants it. Third are the ones that go into both topspace and subspace, and many of these are nymphos in general.
So with respect to women who dom and sub.: one cool thing about BDSM is that it transcends sex into a realm of an alternate but strongly physically and psychologically pulling erotic identity. So she is not X name but she is your slave or Mistress. With that, it’s important to be careful to not let the rapports bleed into each other, because you are really different people when in the two roles. A standard practice is to just take different different nights. Have distinct scenes wherein you play one role throughout, and in general I recommend this: by distinct scenes I mean take an agreed period of time where the focus of the activity entirely is the bdsm play.
If you’ve developed good Dom and sub rapport with a woman, you can play around with switching at designated moments within pre-scripted scenes, for instance: a teacher beats, abuses and fucks a student, apparently the student was recording it, she blackmails him and beats him mand makes him pleasure her, he steals her recorder and then tackles and pins her down. Make sure to pre-script things, due to the warning above, so make you sure you know when you are supposed to flip. This is a bit of a mindfuck though, make sure you have plenty of energy.
Now when it comes to general foreplay and sex itself outside the context of a BDSM scene, here are some options:
- Rabid animal sex, basically focusing on the sm aspect – frantic frequent alternating attacks on each other, e.g., you bite her lip she scratches your back you slap her face she squeezes your balls. Generally understood that you’re alternating, but it’s fast paced so it doesn’t matter if someone goes in a row a few times. You can also both add a D/s component by incorporating dirty talk, again alternating calling each names and so on.
- Male dom and top, woman bottom: you entirely lead and treat her roughly and sometimes tell her to hurt you in some way.
- “Pitbull on a leash” the foreplay is the woman domming, with lots of teasing, and then this is followed up with the woman letting the man free to attack her with rough physical treatment and pussy destruction.
I hope this helps in maximizing your good times with this type of lover 🙂